As soon as I saw the trailer of The Theory of Everything,
I knew I had to see it. Without going into much detail, it’s a film
based on an autobiography written by Jane Hawking, Steven Hawking’s wife
of many years. It was brilliant; made me
laugh, anxious and sad, all at
the same time. But most importantly, it made me question the parameters
of love.
Jane Hawking, a woman I promptly added
to my Great Wall of Respect, spent a great part of her life devoted to
taking care of her husband, who had a motor neurone disease. After three
children, lots of tears and an incredible amount of selflessness, she
realises she wants to move on. It made me wonder… At what point does
selfishness become more than an indulgence, but a necessity? If you
choose to move on, does that mean it’s not love at all?
If I’ve learnt anything from my personal
relationship with God in the last few years, it’s that love is not a
feeling; it’s an active decision. And so I understood this, or am in the
process of understanding this – being that I’ve had to consciously
reverse the damage Hollywood has done. But while watching the film
(honestly, my mind never stops), I myself had to question where – if
there is – the line is between Love and Let Go.
It’s such a difficult question to answer
because couples are vastly different; there’s no one-size-fits-all when
it comes to relationships. But is it a case of accepting that some
people are only with you on this journey of life for a specific time,
and they need to get off at the appropriate stop? I’m of the opinion
that this generation is far too desirous of instant gratification. The
same way we want our web pages to load at the speed of light is the way
we want hassle-free relationships without the effort that goes into
achieving it. However, is it worth acknowledging and accepting that some
things – great as they are or were – have an expiry date?
When is enough enough, or does
that apply to everything besides love? Is letting go sometimes the
better option, despite how bad it might make a person look? Or, could it
just be the Lazy Man’s excuse for giving up?
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